A mother’s work meme

The Meme was established by Mother. Wife. Me and Pret-A-Mummy to discuss whether or not society values and supports mothers.”. I was tagged by the thrifty mum

Rules:

Please post the rules.
Answer the questions in as much or as little detail as suits you.
Leave a comment on mother.wife.me so we can keep track of the meme.
Tag 3 people and link to them on your blog.
Let them know you tagged them.
Tweet about taking part #amothersworkmeme.
Questions:
1.  Did you work before becoming a mum?
Well I was at Uni for 7 years and i worked for 7 years, I was a social worker, then i trained social workers in child devleiopment. i also ahd a very small private psychotherapy practice,
2.  What is your current situation?
I took a 6 year carreer break when i had my son as he  weighed only 3lb. I was over protective smitten and determind.it was hard as i was the main earner. During that time I taught baby signing one day a week with him on my knee. Then I worte a book How to afford time off with your baby  and was lucky enough to get it published. I started blogging off the back of that and in various ways i now make my living as a writer.
3.  Freestyle – got your own point you’d like to get across on this issue? Here’s your chance…
I believe if a woman (or a man) wishes to riase her child day in and day out during their formative years she should have that opportunity. If she wishes to work that is also her choice . However I do strongly believe children need secure attachments and that their security and wellbeing has to be a parents (mum or dads) primary responsibility.  Childcare outside of the home needs to be excellent and consistant. These are really the formative years aof a childs developemt. in terms of building relationshps.
I think if a woman is happy she is a better mother but contrary to popular wisdom I do think you have to put children first.
I tag Cass at Diary of a frugal family

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1 Comment

  1. The Thrifty Mum
    April 15, 2012 / 13:19

    Reading what you’ve achieved while off with your little one is very impressive!

    I think you’re right when you say popular wisdom is not about putting children first. The emphasis seems to be on resuming your ‘normal’ life as quickly as possible and expecting the new baby to fit neatly into that. It doesn’t work like that. But I think we see other women doing it and feel under pressure to do it too, although they may well be struggling and don’t want to do it themselves.

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